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Where have all the condoms gone? 52% of millennials don’t use them

I stumbled upon the SKYNN Condoms “Millennial sex survey” today, and nearly dropped my coffee when I read the results.

They tried to tout their findings in a positive light: “48% of sexually active millennials say they use Condoms regularly!”

Wait, what?… What about the other 52%!? (ahem, the majority, not that we’re counting)

But while I was shocked to see this in writing, a part of me isn’t all that surprised. I’m a bit of a serial monogamist, generally coupled up in a relationship for few years, with about a year of dating and related sexual exploits in between. When I first started having sex, condoms were expected. Always. Birth control or not, you wrapped it up until well into a relationship, and sometimes all the way through. The AIDS crisis was still fresh in our collective minds, and no amount of mood-killing latex complaints was worth the risk.

Not anymore. Most of my singlefriends admit to not using condoms every time, or even most of the time. And when I reentered the single dating world about a year ago, and I started seeing this trend myself. Without digging too far into my personal sex life here, suffice to say it’s shocking how guys just assume that gloves-off from the get-go is the norm (their reactions range from endearing to appalling when I inform them otherwise, but those are stories for another time).

Let me state for the record before we go any further — if you just met someone on Tinder or with any sort of recency, and/or you haven’t verified their most recent STD status — You really should use protection.

But the fact is, most people aren’t. And you’re not alone. Here’s another fun stat from my latest sex research sesh.

66% of women say they’ve never bought a condom.

So maybe this one shouldn’t be all that surprising. I mean he’s the one wearing the thing right? We have an entire aisle of feminine care products to worry about, so most of us leave the awkward condom section to him (I’ll admit, I can easily count my condom purchases on one hand)

But we should be taking more responsibility and control of our sexual health. Here’s one last stat to explain why.

“STDs have reached an all time high in the US”

The CDC released a frightening report last October spelling this out. And women bear the brunt of the consequences (note. I’m talking only about heterosexual sex at the moment to make this point, not to minimize the importance or risks for the gay community)

  1. It’s much easier for women to contract the infections. Yes STDs are sexist, and they definitely discriminate.
  2. Once we do, we’re stuck with a disproportionate mess of life-altering consequences, including cancer (cervical cancer rates have skyrocketed thanks to HPV) and infertility.

So ​I’m going to ​start buying my own condoms​​. A few awkward moments at the CVS checkout counter is a small price to pay for a lifetime of healthy sex, don’t you agree?

That said, ​condoms alone aren’t enough. I know I just got finished telling you to use them, but while they’re super important condoms don’t protect against everything. The most important thing we can do to protect ourselves is to make sure our partners have been tested recently (and can prove it).
This last piece ​used to be all but impossible, but not anymore. ​The SAFE app lets you privately show your verified STD status on your phone, and check your partners status. It also makes it super easy and affordable to get tested, so there’s no excuse not to (for either of you!). It’s 100% private and imports results direct from your doctor or lab, so there’s no faking it (​cause who wants to fake anything in the bedroom, amiright? ) Let’s start taking control of our sexual health ladies. After all, if we don’t respect and protect ourselves, who will?

​Let’s make the the world a safer (and more fun) place to be.
Have fun. Save Lives. #BeSAFE

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SAFE @ SXSW : Women Dominating the Sex + Health Frontier Panel

As the #PaddleBattle2018 began to wind down, SAFE’s SXSW programming was only just beginning. Event-goers, swarming the busy streets of Austin in search of the most cutting edge exhibitions, migrated toward the venue generating much of the hype: River Ecosystem’s Frontier Tech Lounge. The lounge, located at The Eleanor in the heart of downtown, was home to a variety of panels exploring the many ways in which technology is shaping the future.

SAFE partnered with River Ecosystem to put on an incredible FemTech panel featuring some of the women dominating the sex + health frontier. Emily Morse, the sex educator behind the Sex With Emily podcast, moderated the discussion between Adryenn Ashley (CEO of Loly, a dating app that matches you based on sexual preferences), Alex Fine (CEO of Dame Products, a vibrator company seriously shaking things up), Kristina Cahojova (CEO of Kegg Tech, a fertility tracking kegel) and SAFE’s very own COO, Lauren Weiniger.

The panel delved into such topics as the #MeToo movement, the difficulties of marketing within the sex tech industry, and the disparities between men and women when it comes to sexual pleasure (news flash: there’s a HUGE disparity). As the ladies debated and discussed the issues surrounding female entrepreneurs in the sex sector, one thing became clear: these women are not alone in their fight to challenge the status quo. In fact, they are surrounded by scores of resilient women who are calling for more female representation in leadership roles and demanding that women’s health become a priority. Love it, ladies!

 

For those of you who missed it, fear not. The panel will be available on the Sex With Emily podcast on April 4 here. If you’d like to witness Dame Products’ Alex Fine reenact her preferred birthing position (yeah that happened) and other moments from the panel, click here. To submit questions for a future panel (of which there will be many) email us with your suggestions here!

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SAFE @ SXSW: PaddleBattle 2018

Late Saturday morning, SXSW attendees and Texas natives alike flocked in droves to an estate nestled in the hills above Austin and made their way to the backyard, where the #PaddleBattle2018 was already underway. The event, supporting the Andy Roddick Foundation and Square Panda, boasted a lineup of various celebrity guests competing against one another on the Pickleball court. In case you’re sitting there asking yourself what in the world pickleball is, you’re not alone. I was in a similar position prior to (and even during) the event. According to Wikipedia, pickleball is “a paddle sport played on a badminton-sized court in which two or four players use solid paddles to hit a perforated polymer ball over a net”. Hundreds of spectators, clearly more familiar with the intricacies of the sport, watched eagerly as women and men of all ages competed on the court.

As temperatures crept well into the nineties, spectators sought ways to escape the heat. Fortunately, SAFE brand ambassadors were on hand to provide guests with trucker hats and lip balm, while Richard’s Rainwater was at the ready to satisfy any and all hydration needs. Chowing on TexMex and sipping margaritas, attendees exchanged pleasantries and debated when the guests of honor would make an appearance.

Just as the competition was heating up, Andy Roddick and Andre Agassi, two tennis greats, arrived on the scene. Assuming their positions on opposite sides of the net, a hush fell over the crowd. After an intense period of prolonged silence, Roddick tossed the ball high into the air and, with a swift swing of his racket, hit a line drive to his opponent. Agassi, no newcomer to the sport, returned the serve with ease and initiated a stunning rally. After the point was awarded to Roddick, both players proceeded to laugh heartily, sending an uproar through the audience. It quickly became clear that, although initially feigning seriousness, these players were not here to compete in Wimbledon. Instead, they came to participate in a playful match as old friends in support of the Andy Roddick Foundation and Square Panda with Readvolution, two charities that work tirelessly to improve the lives and education of underprivileged children.

Overall, the #PaddleBattle2018 was an enormous success. SAFE was thrilled to partner with such amazing brands as Richard’s Rainwater, Margaritaville, and Smash Park to put on an incredible event and support the efforts of ARF and Square Panda. To see more images from the event, check out our Facebook page.